Human beings are the only species that deliberately sabotage their own best efforts to improve their life. We have the intellect to know that the behaviors we’re clinging to are holding us back from reaching our goals yet often times we can’t change.
You know that you need to lose weight and cut back on sugar yet you continue to order a large sweet tea at McDonald’s on your way to work each day.
You’ve promised yourself that you’ll get up and take a 20 minute walk before you start your day but when the alarm goes off you hit the snooze until it’s too late to go.
You’ve made a delicious salad and put it in the fridge at work, but when co-workers say they’re going to Pizza By The Pound for lunch you easily dismiss the salad and join them.
Is it because we are a bunch of pampered, lazy sloths that we can’t get motivated or tolerate any discomfort that might come from the process of changing the bad habits we’ve developed?
I don’t think so.
I’m not a psychologist. I’m a wellness coach and program administrator. If you know a psychologist, go ahead and ask them what they think. Their answer might be different from mine.
I think people find it very hard to change their behaviors because of fear. Fear of failure. Fear of the unknown. And most of, fear of being uncomfortable, maybe even miserable, during the process.
I don’t think that, as a species, we’re a bunch of lazy sloths. I do think that most of us like to be comfortable. We like routine. We avoid change. We are content with the status quo. We make excuses, procrastinate, and avoid.
As soon as you set a goal and realize what action steps you’re going to have to take to achieve it, the repetitive self-defeating thoughts inhabit your brain. It’s too hot or too cold. You’re too tired. You don’t have enough time. You never see the results fast enough. You need a break. You’re burnt out. It doesn’t matter anyway. What difference does it make?
Get Comfortable With Discomfort“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” — Brian Tracy
What is it that you want to do but know that in order to achieve it you’re going to have to suffer a little?
Maybe you’d like to try the HiiT class at the Y but you’re afraid you’ll feel funny, look clumsy, or won’t be able to keep up. Being the new person in an exercise class is very uncomfortable.
Three months ago you signed up to run a 10K that’s now two weeks away. You haven’t kept up with the training program. You can probably get through the race but it won’t be as easy as you’d like. You’re going to suffer a little.
You just came home from your annual physical and the doctor pointed out that you’ve gained 10 pounds since she saw you last year. You know you need to lose weight but there are so many other things going on right now. You don’t have time for work on your diet and exercise. You need a magic wand to make this happen.
This behavior change stuff is hard work. There’s no easy way for it to happen. You have to do the work and you’re going to have to sacrifice and suffer. A little.
But on the other side of that discomfort, awkwardness, and misery is something special. There’s a feeling of achievement and reward that’s waiting for you that is greater than all of those things that held you back. If you’re feeling too cushy, too comfortable, too settled into your routine it probably means you’re not reaching, growing, or moving towards your goals. It’s time for you to get uncomfortable.
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
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